Nothing special here, move along.
So this seems to happen around this time of year. I actually wished I didn’t know why but If I said that I know I would be lying. Getting close to my birthday and this is normally a great time for people to celebrate them getting a year older and all that stuff.
I’m married to a wonderful woman who loves me and have awesome in laws that love to celebrate birthdays and special occasions. It’s always odd to hear one’s mother in law say “Your birthday is coming next month, where do you want to go for dinner for your birthday?” as she wipes out her calendar to try to match up schedules to see when is the best time to celebrate. Last year they made a point to go out to dinner even though they had been out on vacation to still take me out. They even mailed me my birthday card and they live in the same city, but they were out on vacation!
My wife she’s amazing, she always does a good job in getting me a present and just being there and making me feel awesome. She does that even when it’s not my birthday. I know what you are thinking? So what the hell is wrong with you man?
Well the above scenario is something that’s played out for the past three to four years. The years before that they weren’t so grandiose. Even some of the things that happen still happen today. I had one birthday from my childhood that stood out above any other birthday when I was growing up. This was the birthday where I turned twelve years old. I actually had a birthday party and had friends come over and I got a whole twelve dollars for every year of my birthday! My grandmother made a guitar cake and it was so cool.
The rest of my birthdays well they weren’t so grandiose! A lot time it was forgotten by family members and it didn’t have any celebrations. I guess I shouldn’t complain or at least that’s what I’ve been told. It was just never a time where I actually felt special. Which seemed to have been a running theme of my upbringing. That’s for another blog post I suppose. Those days of not feeling special still creep back up on me and makes me view myself in a light that is not becoming.
I remember an exercise that my therapist had me do back in the day. He said I have to start playing “tapes” of good qualities that I am and stop listening to the “bad tapes” of what others have said about me. There are times in my life I end up going back to that “virtual tape case” and pulling out the old tapes and start playing them, I don’t know why it’s just dumb and silly I know.
It just seems like today is one of those days where I can’t turn off the damn tape player. Anyone have a hammer?
-Cao
A Jamocha Shake and Boxers! 100% Cotton, Please!
Wait, wait, wait! Don’t run off! I’m not going to continue a discussion that I had on twitter here but I just thought it would be a cool title to have.
What I would like to discuss, however, is the topic of “When is too much information, too much?”.
Here is how I break down information sharing:
1) Know your audience. If you know your audience you know how much is enough, too much, or not enough. In most situations this is a “majority rules” type audience. If a person is in that audience I would think they know who the information giver is.
2) Know yourself. What’s comfortable for you to share with your audience? Are you more of a type that likes to holds one cards to their chest and not let others see? Or are you a “I’m human and my audience is too and I’m quite sure I’m not the only one that does this.”?
3)Know your platform. What platform or place are you giving this information? Is it verbal or written? Is it being recorded or not? To some people this makes a difference. Actually being on record of saying something they will change what they will share.
So with me. I tend to view my audience as a majority rule and think that everyone is human so I know I’m not the only one that’s seen or heard the information I’m about to share. If it’s recorded I wouldn’t change what I would say. I learned a long time ago to be myself and not change who that is. I lived a life where I was not myself and it was hell.
So let it be known that most humans do wear underwear or they are commando. Also most couples have sex. That’s not too much information is it? Naw, it can’t be!
Tao of Cao: Don’t live a false life. Don’t be afraid to show who you are to people. You will be respected more if they know you are the same person in and out of public. Being fake doesn’t get you anywhere but into a hill of trouble.
PS I must say. I have to take a bit of my own advice and include the photo above. I was too embrassed to share it on Saturday as I felt I looked HUGE but it’s me. Who I am, I can’t hide behind it…but you can! Ha! I made a funny about myself. Love you guys and gals.
-Cao
Where you been, fool?
I have no excuse on the lack of post on http://taoofcao.com as of late. It’s been well over 4 months of goodness that has been going on. I figure most of those that read here follow me on twitter/Facebook or other means of communicating. For those that don’t know Renee and I have started a joint blog over at @Valentine where we talk about a topic that we enjoy together. Things like a particular restaurant, movie, or item.
Never fear though I’ll still bring the boring-ness of what’s going on with me here in a sporadic fashion in the least creative way possible (lol). As of late here at my job we’ve been and are going through a migration that is taking a lot of time, man hours and headaches. I’ve horribly been in and out of touch with things during the work hours and fall way behind on what’s going on in everyone’s lives. Most times when I’m get home I’m beat, wore out and tired. I know one thing is for sure I’m sure am glad I have a job.
I believe that’s enough belly aching from this guy. How’s it been going for you all out there?
Tao of Cao: Too much belly aching may cause you to get the medicine that you least like. Don’t belly ache too much or only when necessary.
Please don’t spend it on me!
Had an amazing evening with Renee, her sisters(Danielle and Kim) and Demetrius (Danielle’s boyfriend) finishing up So You Think You Can Dance. We hung out and laughed and boo’d when Ade was voted off. All I have to say is Lil-C talks way too much. He verbally vomits when he gives his comments and it aggravates me to no end.
Before hanging with them we went to go see Devona’s, Renee’s cousin, closing program that they have at the end of the summer. It was cute to see all the work the kids did from camp. Before the program Renee and I had dinner at “The Pub” it was amazing I had the Portabello and Pepper Jack Burger this was the first time I had an actual Pepper Jack Burger that was spicy! It was extremely delicious and they cooked just right with a little red in the middle and hot! It was a great way to start the weekend after being on call this week.
I got up this morning and pulled this from the jar:
“250. You don’t want me to spend money on you (but I still want to.)”
This a huge thing for me, it’s not that I’m old fashioned or anything, but I really had hang ups coming up with people spending money on me. What would normally happen is that it would be held over me. It would come off as if it’s a gift at first but then used as leverage. Also I never want to feel like I’m putting some one out. What I mean by that is that I don’t like being an inconvenience and I see that as one way of being inconvenient to someone one. I’m so lucky to have such a caring, loving and funny fiancee I so can’t wait till we walk down that isle.
Thing I love about Renee is that she is such an awesome big sister. Last night when we were hanging out with Kim, Danielle, and Demetrius. Demetrius was picking on us because we all liked “So You Think You Can Dance” Renee told Demetrius “Don’t make me pick on you about something you like that’s funny!” then Renee said something to the effect of “We don’t laugh at you for liking Danielle!” Oh my god, Kim, myself and Renee fell out laughing! Such a big sister thing to say I love her so much and a day without here is never the same. You all have a good Saturday and we are going to Five Guys today and we get to see what all the Hype is all about. I hope its as good as everyone says it is.
–Peesh
Here is the craziness…
This is the type of conversations that my loving woman will have to deal with for the rest of her life!!!!
4:00 PM me: ch’mon!
ch’mon!
I got something for you girl!
/pelvicthrust
ch’mon!
4:01 PM <(^.^<)
^(*.*)^
(>^.^)>
4:02 PM (>^.^<)
/pelvicthrust
Girl you rock my world!
you know you did!
/pelvicthrust
4:03 PM Wooooooo!
<(^.^<)
(>^.^)>
(>^.^<)
/moonwalk
/pelvicthrust
Hahahahaha!
– Peesh!!
This morning!!!
So after a brisk walk with Toby we were finishing up the walk I was going to go throw his p00p into the dumpster (yes we are good dog owners and pick up after our dog.) and this is what I saw.
Dumpster diving at it’s best!!!!! I looked in the back of their truck and they already made a few hug scores one being a nice push lawn mower! Our complex has like a total of six dumpsters so I’m sure this crew of two find our place a gold mine!
So after having burbon slushies for the first time at the couple’s shower I felt like living on the edge and making Renee and myself “The Breakfast of Champions!” here’s the winning photo shot with the lead singer from Gorillaz. 2d
So you ask…what is that? I tell you a tall glass of milk and Chocolate cookies!!! oh *NOM NOM NOM* now to figure out what it is I want to cook tonight!
– Peesh!!
I pulled my seventh *thing* today!
“170. You serenade me with so much love” If I don’t say so myself I do enjoying singing to her. My silky, sultry is reminiscent of Barry White himself and when Renee serenades me its like Alicia Keys is standing before me. If you disagree…well you just suck 
On a side note we had an awesome time at Adrienne and Cole’s couple shower. They are so awesome and cool. Best part…they didn’t have it outside! What…it was hot! LOL! It was good catching up with everyone from the engagement shower and meeting some new folks. Tony Martinez (a.k.a Latino Heat) was great. I can’t wait to hang out with him more at the wedding. It was a good time all together can’t wait to hang out some more.
–Peesh
The Future Soon
So for the past three days I’ve bee singing Jonathan Coulton’ song “The Future Soon”. It’s a song about a geek kid in class that is in love with a girl. He sends her a letter to tell her that he loves her. She laughs then runs off with a “better” guy. So he daydreams (or does he) about how he re-engineers his body taking away all the “imperfections” and replaces them with cyborg parts so that he could be perfect.
He also creates a robot army and OH NOES!!! His love is caught in the midst of the battle losing her eyes, which he replaces. Does she love him in the end or is it forced love? Here’s a created video for the song.
I think I been listening to this song a lot lately because I remember I used to be that guy back in the day. I wasn’t the coolest kid…at least that’s what I’ve felt. I’m very thankful to be in a relationship where I do not feel like I have to replace my “imperfections”. I know there’s been plenty of times I told Renee that I wish I could just cut my stomach off or just fix my cowlick or something. She loves me regardless and I feel the same for her very much her.
So my words of wisdom would be wait for that one that loves you for your imperfections and perfections.
–Peesh
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